Tuesday, May 1, 2018

How Rejection Made Me a Better Daughter

It came as no surprise, four years since our last visit and she greeted everyone in my family by name and ignored me. I raised my hand and said, “And your daughter.” But this time my heart didn’t sink. Instantly I knew how far I’d come. The choice to forgive and bless was worthwhile. The pain and sting of her rejection absent in the presence of peace and compassion.

My heart had been mended.

It was likely our last visit, she has stage four cancer. I was surprised by the sadness that greeted me like an unwelcome guest. I reconciled to myself that this is how it will likely end.

Tears began to flow.

Although the sting was gone and the fruit of forgiveness washed over me I needed to spend time with my Father. I recalled the motto of my Wednesday night class, “Living first commandment first” and opened my Bible.
And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. Matthew 6:27 
In His Word that morning He had a gift for me. 
For my father and my mother have forsaken me,
but the Lord will take me in. Psalm 27:10
He has done just that - in small and big ways, subtle and outlandish ways, in ways that could only come from a good, good Father. If that is all He did it was enough, but the magnitude of the gift was found in the verses below.
In his shelter in the day of trouble, that’s where you’ll find me, for he hides me there in his holiness. He has smuggled me into his secret place, where I’m kept safe and secure—out of reach from all my enemies. Triumphant now, I’ll bring him my offerings of praise,singing and shouting with ecstatic joy! Yes, listen and you can hearthe fanfare of my shouts of praise to the Lord! Psalm 27:5-6 TPT
Right there in those passages it hit me, she had not ignored me, she just couldn’t see me.

He hid.

He smuggled.

Safe and secure.

Out of reach.

A lifetime of rejection passed before my eyes and my heart turned again, it leaned into Him and healed!


  1. You are such an inspiration and go through life with such grace! Thank you always sharing!

  2. Thanks friend. Just putting one foot in front of the other in faith!